Are you are Serial Quitter? Do you start projects and not finish them? Do you come up with new ideas to solve problems, start building out the idea then quit midway through? Do you constantly change your major in college or start degree programs and stop when it gets hard? Do you start drafting plans, and make excuses to stop because of the challenges? Do you set goals that you are excited to start but don’t see it to the end? If you answered Yes to all or most of those questions, you might be a Serial Quitter.
Don’t think that I am shaming you if you happen to be a Serial Quitter because I’ve been one for most of my life so I can relate. Looking back I can’t tell you how many things I’ve talked myself out of doing that I really wanted to pursue. I’ve talked myself out of business ideas, career paths, traveling adventures, etc., and I’ve finally reached a point where I was tired of it. I don’t mean to sound like a negative person because I have achieved a lot of great things in my life, but my standards have evolved over time and I expect bigger and better things from myself and so should you.
I remember taking a new job as a Program Manager at a large company about 5 years ago and I had some freedom to develop the role the way that I saw fit for the position. I was having a conversation with my new co-worker at the time to determine what my role should be, and I shared some ideas I had with him. About 5 minutes after sharing my thoughts, my co-worker looked at me and said, “Think Bigger”. Why tell that boring story? That conversation with my co-worker lit a spark in me and I realized right then and there that I’ve been selling myself short not just in my career, but in my life in general. I allowed the mini successes in my professional career and in my spiritual studies fool me into thinking that I somehow “made it”, but I was still mediocre at best and that’s largely due to all of the quitting I’ve done in the past. I know that sounds harsh but I believe we are designed to accomplish far more in life than most of us actually do. It’s ok to celebrate your wins and briefly pat yourself on the back, but soon after you gotta (Yea, I wrote gotta, relax) move on and stay focused on your long-term vision and stick to what your start.
In order to reverse your Serial Quitter habits first start with thinking about and writing down the vision you have for your life professionally, personally and spiritually. It’s ok if this changes a bit as you learn more about yourself and have different life experiences, but you need a vision to keep your mind in check when you feel pressure to quit something that supports your goals. Secondly, you must actually BELIEVE that you can achieve and DESERVE the vision you wrote down. This is where self-esteem and self-worth come into play. Having a strong sense of self-worth will help you defeat doubt when those negative voices come into your mind. Lastly, Execute, Execute, Execute. Your vision will not become a reality if you don’t put in the hard work over the span of years or even decades. Set small goals, crush them, then move on to the next goal propelling yourself forward in the right direction.
Stop being a Serial Quitter and get to the finish line!
Author: Mike Free, CEO and Founder of Grind Over matter